mzwavy asked: Hi. I actually have 2 questions if that's ok :-) 1. What should I do when they ask to get on webcam? I don't have one. 2. How should I maximize paypig responses? Are there things I can do with my profile to make it more inviting?

1. Be honest, tell them you don’t have a webcam but you can pic verify (if you’re ok with that). If you’re willing to get on webcam in the future you can ask one of your pay pigs to gift you one or invest in one yourself (I think you can find one for about $20 in Target or Wal-Mart).

2. Spelling and grammar is very important. Subs might suck at it, but they get turned on by an intelligent woman. From what you’ve written here, it seems you have that under control. Secondly, make sure that your dominant side shows in your profile. Show them what they would be paying for through your words. Your pics might be the most important thing in maximizing responses. Try to have more than 2 pictures on your profile and make sure there’s variety between them. The more professional, the better, but it’s not necessary.

Hope this helps!

// Update//

Sorry that I’ve been MIA, been busy busy busy. I haven’t been posting much because I don’t have much more to write about, feel free to continue sending me messages. I’ll answer them asap and that might give me ideas for a new post.

Anonymous asked: Do you have any suggestions for games and tasks for subs? I have a few ideas, but I'm stuck!

Let’s see, off the top of my head: Drinking games, writing tasks, tasks that involves toys such as clothespins, dildos, ropes, etc. orgasm control (not touching self for x amount of days). I was a big fan of public masturbation tasks, for example, I had a sum drive to a very busy mall and masturbate for 30 minutes in the parking lot. He also had to drive 3 hours to visit his dad, I had him masturbate for the entire three hours and he wasn’t allowed to cum. Not many listed here, but I hope this helps a bit.

Anonymous asked: Have you had any trouble attracting subs? I have no one, i see these girls who started around the same time as time who put in no effort and they have 3 already. its a bit discouraging, any advice?

I don’t think I really have trouble. For example, I currently have a collarme profile though I’m not active in the scene, and I get a lot of emails. I do have trouble attracting true paypigs. I think like anything else it’s all about marketing yourself, and unfortunately it’s like any other thing, there’s society’s idea of beauty, and in the bdsm world, if you’re not society’s beauty you’re a fetish (this is not always true and it’s not a strict rule). For example, I’m a plus size black female, most people who approach me focus on the fact that they want to be dominated by a strong black woman. I’m a fetish (and I have absolutely no problem with that), so I only appeal to certain men, I play into that fetish. Know yourself and what works for you and sell that shit.

Anonymous asked: Re: programs that log keystrokes. do i download the program on my computer or do i have to download the program on my subs computer while i'm using TV? please and thanks

On the sub’s computer.

// Doing Your Research//

I’ve gotten a couple of messages asking for places to look to learn a little more about financial domination. The easy answer is, there isn’t any, or none that I’ve found (except for online findom school/magazine that you have to pay for, but it might be worth it, the author is wonderful). When I started out I learned by researching other findoms. I stalked these lady’s blogs and websites trying to soak in as much information as I could. I got a lot of help from livejournal blogs because people were a bit more personal on there. It definitely had a blog feel, so they would talk about conversations they’ve  had with subs, what they were having their subs do, and basically how they did their “thing”. Every findom is different, you’re all going to do things differently, but by reading other blogs and websites, a lot of your questions can be answered. I’ve also seen a lot of posts asking about terminology (what to say in your profile and when you’re talking to a sub online), these sites can help you to master your own terminology. So I suggest you ladies google the shit out of “findom” “findomme” “financial domination” “paypig” and “cash cow”.

Anonymous asked: what information can a sub see through venmo transactions?

I’ve been meaning to test this out with a friend, so thanks for the reminder, I’ll do that tonight and give a clear answer. But if I understand it correctly, you use your debit or credit card to send money so no bank information is required on the sub’s part. In terms of dommes, when you sign up for venmo, you can use a nickname so I’m pretty sure the only thing information the sub gets is your nickname that he has to use to send you the money. But, like I said, I’ll be trying it out just to make sure, will update as soon as I find out.

// Contract Example//

luxurioussugar:

theblackdomme:

luxurioussugar:

plussizedominatrix:

What you need to know before you draw up/sign a contract.

Example 1.

Example 2.

PLEASE READ

I wonder why people take these things seriously. They are not legally binding.

Its like someone making a wife/husband contract, signing it, then pretending they are married. lol

Its all part of the game. I guess it enhances the experience for the sub

Exactly. Like the first linked post says, it’s all a fantasy. But if you think about it, if you’re an online domme, most of it is fantasy. If you have a cam session with someone and you tell him to smack himself across the face, he has every right to leave and turn off his cam. Most likely he won’t because he thinks he has to follow your orders. Fantasy becomes reality. Same thing with a contract, it’s all about the fantasy, it makes it feel more real. 

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// Contract Example//

What you need to know before you draw up/sign a contract.

Example 1.

Example 2.