So You Want to be a Fin Domme: Contract Example
EXACTLY. LIKE THE FIRST LINKED POST SAYS, IT’S ALL A FANTASY. BUT IF YOU THINK ABOUT IT, IF YOU’RE AN ONLINE DOMME, MOST OF IT IS FANTASY. IF YOU HAVE A CAM SESSION WITH SOMEONE AND YOU TELL HIM TO SMACK HIMSELF ACROSS THE FACE, HE HAS EVERY RIGHT TO LEAVE AND TURN OFF HIS CAM. MOST LIKELY HE WON’T BECAUSE HE THINKS HE HAS TO FOLLOW YOUR ORDERS. FANTASY BECOMES REALITY. SAME THING WITH A CONTRACT, IT’S ALL ABOUT THE FANTASY, IT MAKES IT FEEL MORE REAL.
Very true. I think it depends on the Domme in the relationship.
I think I have a more personable approach to online dominance. I dont need a piece of paper to say “you’re mine, bitch”. Especially if we’re talking about a 24/7 online degradation relationship, I really could care less about their feelings regarding a contract. Im getting paid to piss on their feelings, as far as im concerned.
A contract does not say, “you’re my bitch.,” it’s not all about how they feel about the contract, and, finally, it does not have to be impersonal. In our conversations we’ve talked about how much you appreciate mind fuck, so I know you’ll agree with me when I say, mind fucking is an art. So let’s run with that. If you’re an artist, you have certain tools that you use to do what you love. If you paint, you’re going to need some brushes, paints, some paper, or whatever else you use. If you make music, you’re going to need a beat, maybe an instrument, a mic, etc. As a mind fucker, you’re going to need your tools. That may include your words, your body language, and yes, even a contract. For some, a contract is all about getting a tribute and writing a document. I fully support that shit-if some guy wants to pay you to write up a document that has no legal merit so they can have that fantasy, make your money boo boo. Shit, I would, and have, jumped on that shit.
For others, it is just another step in mind fucking these subs. For example, I’ve been dealing with this sub for about a year (maybe more) and part of the reason why he’s still around is because he thinks I’m the ultimate domme and no other domme could have gotten him to the point that he is now. Is that true? Hell no. Have I ever told him that I’m the only domme that can control him the way I do? Hell no. He came to that conclusion himself. Why? Because I completely broke him down, brought him down to his most basic form and then made him into what I want him to be (for the most part, because damn that mother fucker is needy, and that is not what I want him to be). That was all through mind fucking while using my tools-first through my words, my demands, my actions. Then through a contract that really doesn’t mean shit, except that it was another form of mind fucking.
Also, like I said above, a contract is not for the slave, or at least it doesn’t have to be. This sub, while obedient, is annoying as fuck. He’s needy and wants me to hold his hands 24/7, which I have no wish to do, so, after some time with his annoying shit, I told him that I had no interest in him as a submissive anymore. This is the same guy that I told you offered me a $1,000 to take him back. I mention the amount because he’s never offered that much before. When I was active in the findom scene, I tried to work with my subs and their finances. I cut out shit they didn’t need, and if they were loyal and obedient, I kept them around even if the tribute was small. So why is it that someone who has never met me, who really can’t afford $1,000, and has never tributed half that much in a month, willing to give me that amount just to take him back when there are a so many dommes out there. Simple, like I said above, I mind fucked him.
I told you I wasn’t going to take him back, fuck the $1,000. But for all his fucking annoying ways, he’s pretty obedient and loyal, so I did, under one condition. We were going to sign a completely new contract. In this contract it states that he needs to complete one act (separate from any assignments) and pay $150 for that act (separate any tributes). If he fails to complete an act for the month, he pays $300 (again, separate from any tributes). Now, clearly this contract is not for him, but he thinks it is and as far as he sees it, he’s completely bound by it. I consider that a mind fuck.
I read a post recently by a domme (can’t remember her name) who mentioned that she told her sub to buy a chastity device and to mail the key to her. She then pointed out the deviousness of it all. While he thought he was bargaining (and probably living out a fantasy that involves chastity), she ensured that he could now be in permanent chastity, which furthered her control. <——Mind fuck.
So after that unnecessarily loooooong post. I still maintain that a mind fuck is not only about your words, it’s the additional tools you use, which most certainly involve things like contracts, blackmail, chastity device, etc. You choose what tools you use.